IT’S a question we have all asked ourselves. How much sex should I be having? The magic number depends on a number of factors, including age, health, sex drive and relationship status.
A study from the Kinsey Institute for research in Sex, Reproduction and Gender suggests age can predict how often you have sex.
Unsurprisingly, 18- to 29-year-olds have the most sex, getting down and dirty between the sheets an average of 112 times per year.
Those aged 30 to 39 have sex about 86 times a year, which is about once a week, and those aged 40 to 49 only have sex 69 times per year.
As people get older the amount of sex they are having drops dramatically.
But that doesn’t mean their sex drive has slowed, it mainly means life stresses, family obligations and physical challenges can get in the way.
Feeling old can also stand in the way of a healthy sex life as it can make a person feel less sexy.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, wrote in the Kinsey Institute’s post: “The basic story line that has emerged from these studies is that, as we get older, our odds of developing chronic health conditions increases and this, in turn, negatively impacts the frequency and quality of sexual activity.”
A study published earlier this year in the Journal of Sex Research looked at a survey of 1,170 adults over 40.
They were asked to complete two surveys, 10 years apart, about their sex lives – including how often they have sex.
They were also asked to to report their age, how they felt about themselves, their desire to have sex and how often they did.
Dr Lehmiller continued: “Perhaps not surprisingly, frequency, quality and interest in sex all declined over that ten-year period.
“Also, consistent with past research, those who remained in better health tended to maintain more active and satisfying sex lives.
“It turned out that neither of them were related to changes in how often people had sex; however, feeling older predicted less interest in sex over time, as well as lower levels of sexual satisfaction.
“In addition, feeling positively toward older adults was linked to maintaining higher levels of sexual satisfaction in the future.”
So what if you’re not having the average amount of sex for your age?
Some research has found that married couples who have more sex tend to be happier, while other research has found that people who report having frequent sex do not tend to be any happier.
At the end of the day, there is no right or wrong answer – it is down to what works for you.